How to understand aggresion to release the bodymind from this duty

Knowing the reason behind aggresion, you may always act in your best interest and understand others.

As we are physically born into our families, we rely on their supplies and resources given to us as part of the human gathering here on Earth. Our needs are being met with more or less success and we learn how to pursue the life we enjoy and accept.

The basic human need is the sense of safety. And here is the first important thing to know about our bodymind. It needs to feel safe. Little does it matter if the circumstances are comfortable if I cannot feel the safe state of my body and mind. And every human being is accustomed with his individual way of feeling safety.

As we look into this feeling state, it is quite obvious that most people rely solely on the outer circumstances that trigger them to feel safe. If I look even closer, I start to feel this mechanism at work. My body and mind recognises familiar circumstances that I associate with this feeling and so I allow myself to be flooded with security, comfort and sense of well-being. The problem with this is that, for the most part, the circumstances around me change quite rapidly and it would take a lot of my energy to adjust and verify every second. In fact, I may even feel quite liberal in this process.

As long as I remember that it is I who create this feeling inside of me, I am good. It gives the sound basis to the choice of circumstances as I grow and interfere eith them. The feeling of comfort either grows or declines.

The moment my comfort declines to minimum, I start to feel unsafe, endangered. And this state can last much too long if not tended to. And this is how aggresion arises in a physical body. The protective mechanism designed to arise in severe discomfort. The raw tension in the bodymind that feels trapped in infavourable space for too long.

So as we develop, we should be guided on this crucial subject: how to take this charged state and channel it back into comfortable flow of life energy. And at any stage of development it is possible. The hard feelings are much easier to recycle once we practice zooming-in on our comfort.

Furthermore, this approach (a.k.a. meeting my needs) cleares the perception of reality around us. An once the emotional fog subsides, we also see aggresion in others that way. As you can observe people around you, you start to notice when and how they know and not know how to comfort themselves.

It also becomes clear that any negative feedback can be handled with grace if we remember the part of us that does not quite know what it wants but it needs space and time to find out and this part creates negative charge in contact with others to make this place for itself. If we understand it like that, we probably will be more than eager to honour that repulsion which simply serves as the statement: I ask of space to create myself here. This is why safe boundaries are so helpful and we will find ourselves flourishing without the buildup of additional drama.